well I didn't count on that

Got an invite in the mail for a birthday, so I send back an RSVP saying that we would love to attend.

Now I just got an email telling me that I have to bring food for 12 adults and 5 kids.......what the???????????

HaHa sucked in what a cheep way to have a party

that sucks! i feel it's okay to ask guests to b y o a bottle or 2 of drinks and maybe a packet of chips, some small contribution to the catering, but not for that amount of people, unless you are hosting the party.

Well I think they should have asked me in the invitation or at least call me

whatthe, I hope you told them where they could shove their party I know I would. What a cheek, to ask you for all that food. you might as well have the party yourself

What the *&@% whatthe I would not hesitate to tell these people to go stick their heads in pigs. So if they asked the other 4 couples, excluding themselves, to also bring food, that is enough for 132 adults and 40 children. What, did these 'friends' just buy a new f***ing freezer? In the past I have bought hampers through Chrisco and Castle, bugger that, all I have to do is bludge off my friends and legitimise it by calling it a party. If it works the first time then the next party invitation shall include a list of things to bring. I always take more than I can drink plus my favourite tuna salad and any more than that is an imposition on your friendship and is bad etiquette. Tell them to get stuffed in no uncertain terms, I sure as hell would.

hey it's getting better his wife have just asked me to pitch in with the present.

I told her that we wouldn't be able to make it.

Was that rude of me?????

ABSOLUTELY NOT I'm sure everyone else is just as cheesed off as you are at being asked to bring that much food. I know I definately would be. I wonder how many will be attending the party under these circumstances. I'd like to be a fly on the wall when they get their responses, to see how they react

Bugga that for a joke. Invite to a party and then asked to provide the food. I take it you have a money tree growing out in your backyard. I would not be able to make it either.

12 adults and 5 kids easy peasy buy 20 bucks worth of hot chips and a scallop each for the kids, oh and a loaf of bread for a chip sanger. and i would make a big effort to tell them you have the food covered but because of the expense you cannot contribute to the present.

good one daddz,

these people aren't worth knowing if they are asking you to help pay for a gift on top of paying for food. maybe you you should the same to them and see how they feel about it all. if they start complaining then tell them that they did it to you. that will teach them

Hot chipees, fresh bread, bbq sauce and a BEER or 2 or 3 or 4 what a good party
No persent the hide of some people

Not being unreasonable, but if you did go would it be too much to ask them the party holders, since you are delivering the food if they would cover your whole petrol costs for doing so. I'm sure that will set them back more than their original idea of asking you to come in the first place.

They would probably say no and then it won't be your fault as you have no means of getting there and their food isn't able to arrive either lol.

But seriously though that isn't up to you to provide if you are the one that is attending via an invitation.

If you had some part in preparation you may feel you need or would chip in, pardon the chips, and do something as well but you were invited and the notice you got was informal as well.

So the seriousness of it didn't seem somewhat important in the end to you. So not attending is not unreasonable, that is your right too in the end.

I think I would be uninviting myself again. Not nice

I did un-invite myself and felt good doing it.

Got a call today asking why I couldn't make it (this was by a friend not the ones having the party) and I told her what they had asked me to do. She told me that they had asked her as well and she told them no but she would be happy to attend but wouldn't bring food.

She went for 1/2 hour and there was no food but chips

Well, isn't that a surprise, no food seeing it seems all invitees were asked to bring food. What a scam Did you friend mention how many people actually turned up for this so called party? I wonder how many put in for the pressie, not too many I bet

i reckon the best revenge you could have on these "friends" is to do exactly the same to them and see how they feel about it, and them remind them about what they did to you if they start complaining. that will teach them, hopefully.

Thats crazy!!

Its not unreasonable to ask you to bring a plate...but all the food!!

You have to be careful when asking people to bring a plate..daughters primary school teacher sent a note for parents to bring a plate. Which I did with nothing on it.