Can anyone help?

My 9 year old son, who has a mild disability, is causing a few problems with his swearing and hitting/kicking people. Everyone that deals with him are at their wits end and having finally hit the brick wall with him. We have tried so many things to stop him behaving this way i e g talking to him, not giving him treats and rewards, and even putting him into a time out area and nothing seems to be working. Has anyone gone through similar stuff and can you help us out?

Is it possible to ignore him when he is being bad, and when he starts being good, thats when you pay attention. He might be seeing it, that he gets a reaction from you when he is naughty.

Just so you know i don't have kids so I haver never tried it. I know some people who have tried it and it works, some time it doesn't.

good luck

yes we have tried to ignore his behaviour. only problem is that he know what his doing is wrong to some degree and that he is pushing our buttons to get some type of reaction etc. we did have a talk with a physcologist yesterday, and he will look into jack's files, and talk with his teachers and observe jack and hopefully come up with some sort of help or solution. we are all getting frustrated that's all. anyway thanks for your help.

Like TrishStar I am not a parent but I have a nephew with ADHD who displays the same behaviour. One day I found him rampaging through my mothers beloved garden pulling out plants left right and centre. Rather than go crackers at the little tyke I sat him down and told him, man to man, the work that my mother had put into the garden and how she would probably cry when she had seen the damaged he had caused. I asked him if he would like to see Aunty Carol cry because of what he had done and he said he did not. He then asked if I would help him fix it up which we did and after a quiet word in my mothers ear the event never happened and he is pretty good at my mums place now. I don't know if this helps but it's all I've got

thanks for the help. it's a bit hard to talk to my son and he doesn't fully comprehend reality. don't know if he has something like adhd. it needs further checking etc. i'm sure that there is a solution somewhere out there.

being a school volunteer, i dont often find kids that age swearing, so i would try to find the people who swear in front of him and ask them to please refrain from using words that only dumb people use in front of your child. praise ,praise and more praise when something good happens. no matter how small.
when he starts to misbehave try distracting him with something he enjoys doing with you or your partner.
if you are not sure about adhd see a doctor or remove all processed foods for a month or 2 to see if he improves. the canadians are the best with adhd long before they give medication to the child they insure there are no chemical influences in the childs enviroment, things like fibres in carpets can be the cause, paint dust, chemical laced foods are removed from there diets. it must be working as they had the lowest rate of adhd when i read about it.

punishment may not work as he may not understand it or why. distractions are the best weapon i had with my kids, even to the point of taking away half there toys so that i could swap them every day or 2 seemed to help as they got less bored ( i guess) playing. i hope something there helps

hi, our child was a bit naughty too, you should take him to the doctors and have a chat to him about what he recommends, Ballarat is good,it has a lot of programs and avenus for children. we lived in Ballarat last year and that is were we started to overcome our childs problems he is doing better.

I know you must have thought of this, but is there something in his diet?

even in bread there is an mould inhibiter that makes some children react

I have a brother with a brain injury,use to also swear alot hitting people,things eg walls,furniture,windows,try not to put him in situations were this might happen, trigger points what sets him off ,when does he act this way?distraction is also affective.Try to praise positive behavior.Rewards for doing the right thing,positiveness.Hope this has helped you in someway

Does he act out when all the time or just when he is bored? As difficult as is may be, he might just need more attention given to him.

Having a child with autism I can relate to the constant aggression and inappropriate behaviour. I found that the best thing to use in our situation was 'positive reinforcement' or using social stories to overcome unwanted behaviour. Read to him several times a day a social story is simple, with pictures; 'John likes to play'. 'Sometimes John's friends use bad words'. 'John does not repeat the words' etc etc. I have found that if good behaviour becomes rewarded and a part of the everyday routine, positive results follow. Hope this helps.